To keep your
marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong,
admit it;
Whenever you're right,
shut up.
marriage brimming,
With love in the loving cup,
Whenever you're wrong,
admit it;
Whenever you're right,
shut up.
I wouldn't change a thing
as happiness you bring.
You are my soul mate.
A marriage made by fate.
as happiness you bring.
You are my soul mate.
A marriage made by fate.
Romantic love is an illusion.
Most of us discover this truth
at the end of a love affair or else
when the sweet emotions of love
lead us into marriage
and then turn down their flames.
Most of us discover this truth
at the end of a love affair or else
when the sweet emotions of love
lead us into marriage
and then turn down their flames.
Love: a temporary insanity,
curable by marriage...
curable by marriage...
Love is temporary insanity
curable by marriage.
curable by marriage.
A successful marriage
requires falling in love many times,
always with the same person.
requires falling in love many times,
always with the same person.
The goal of our life
should not be to
find joy in marriage,
but to bring more love and truth
into the world.
should not be to
find joy in marriage,
but to bring more love and truth
into the world.
One advantage of marriage,
it seems to me,
is that when you fall out of love with him,
or he falls out of love with you,
it keeps you together
until you maybe fall in again.
it seems to me,
is that when you fall out of love with him,
or he falls out of love with you,
it keeps you together
until you maybe fall in again.
A Permission Marketer
goes on a date.
If it goes well, the two of them
go on another date.
And then another.
Until, after ten or twelve dates,
both sides can really
communicate with each other
about their needs and desires.
After twenty dates they meet
each other's families.
Finally, after three or
four months of dating,
the Permission Marketer
proposes marriage.
Permission Marketing is just like dating.
It turns stranger into friends
and friends into lifetime customers.
Many of the rules of dating apply,
and so do many of the benefits.
Marriage should be honored by all,
and the marriage bed kept pure,
for God will judge the adulterer
and all the sexually immoral.
Keep your lives free from
the love of money and be content
with what you have,
because God has said,
"Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you."
So we say with confidence,
"The Lord is my helper;
I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?"
Remember your leaders,
who spoke the word of God to you.
Consider the outcome of their way of life
and imitate their faith.
~ Hebrews 13:4-7
and the marriage bed kept pure,
for God will judge the adulterer
and all the sexually immoral.
Keep your lives free from
the love of money and be content
with what you have,
because God has said,
"Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you."
So we say with confidence,
"The Lord is my helper;
I will not be afraid.
What can man do to me?"
Remember your leaders,
who spoke the word of God to you.
Consider the outcome of their way of life
and imitate their faith.
~ Hebrews 13:4-7
The LORD God said,
"It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him."
Now the LORD God had formed out
of the ground all the beasts
of the field and all the birds of the air.
He brought them to the man
to see what he would name them;
and whatever the man called each
living creature, that was its name.
So the man gave names
to all the livestock,
the birds of the air
and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
So the LORD God
caused the man to fall into a deep sleep;
and while he was sleeping,
he took one of the man's ribs
and closed up the place with flesh.
Then the LORD God made a woman
from the rib he had taken out of the man,
and he brought her to the man.
The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman,'
for she was taken out of man."
For this reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be united to his wife,
and they will become one flesh.
~ Genesis 2:18-24
"It is not good for the man to be alone.
I will make a helper suitable for him."
Now the LORD God had formed out
of the ground all the beasts
of the field and all the birds of the air.
He brought them to the man
to see what he would name them;
and whatever the man called each
living creature, that was its name.
So the man gave names
to all the livestock,
the birds of the air
and all the beasts of the field.
But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
So the LORD God
caused the man to fall into a deep sleep;
and while he was sleeping,
he took one of the man's ribs
and closed up the place with flesh.
Then the LORD God made a woman
from the rib he had taken out of the man,
and he brought her to the man.
The man said,
"This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called 'woman,'
for she was taken out of man."
For this reason a man will leave his father
and mother and be united to his wife,
and they will become one flesh.
~ Genesis 2:18-24
If a man has recently married,
he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him.
For one year he is to be free to stay at home
and bring happiness to the wife he has married.
~ Deuteronomy 24:5
he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him.
For one year he is to be free to stay at home
and bring happiness to the wife he has married.
~ Deuteronomy 24:5
I have always considered marriage
as the most interesting event of one's life,
the foundation of happiness or misery.
as the most interesting event of one's life,
the foundation of happiness or misery.
What a happy and holy fashion
it is that those who love one another
should rest on the same pillow.
it is that those who love one another
should rest on the same pillow.
Love at first sight
is easy to understand;
it's when two people
have been looking at each other
for a lifetime that
it becomes a miracle.
is easy to understand;
it's when two people
have been looking at each other
for a lifetime that
it becomes a miracle.
Marriage is popular because
it combines the maximum of temptation
with the maximum of opportunity.
it combines the maximum of temptation
with the maximum of opportunity.
Strike an average between
what a woman thinks of her husband
a month before she marries him
and what she thinks of him a year afterward,
and you will have the truth about him.
what a woman thinks of her husband
a month before she marries him
and what she thinks of him a year afterward,
and you will have the truth about him.
Instead of getting married again,
I'm going to find a woman I don't like
and give her a house.
I'm going to find a woman I don't like
and give her a house.
We only regard those unions
as real examples of love
and real marriages
in which a fixed and
unalterable decision has been taken.
If men or women contemplate an escape,
they do not collect all their powers for the task.
In none of the serious
and important tasks of life
do we arrange such a "getaway."
We cannot love and be limited.
as real examples of love
and real marriages
in which a fixed and
unalterable decision has been taken.
If men or women contemplate an escape,
they do not collect all their powers for the task.
In none of the serious
and important tasks of life
do we arrange such a "getaway."
We cannot love and be limited.
Marriage is the triumph
of imagination over intelligence.
Second marriage is the triumph
of hope over experience
Now for the matters you wrote about:
It is good for a man not to marry.
But since there is so much immorality,
each man should have his own wife,
and each woman her own husband.
The husband should fulfill
his marital duty to his wife,
and likewise the wife to her husband.
The wife's body does not
belong to her alone
but also to her husband.
In the same way,
the husband's body does not
belong to him alone
but also to his wife.
Do not deprive each other
except by mutual consent and for a time,
so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.
Then come together again
so that Satan will not tempt you
because of your lack of self-control.
I say this as a concession,
not as a command.
I wish that all men were as I am.
But each man has his own gift from God;
one has this gift, another has that.
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say:
It is good for them to stay unmarried,
as I am. But if they cannot control themselves,
they should marry,
for it is better to marry
than to burn with passion.
To the married I give this command
(not I, but the Lord):
A wife must not separate from her husband.
But if she does, she must remain unmarried
or else be reconciled to her husband.
And a husband must not divorce his wife.
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord):
If any brother has a wife who is not a believer
and she is willing to live with him,
he must not divorce her.
And if a woman has a husband
who is not a believer and
he is willing to live with her,
she must not divorce him.
For the unbelieving husband has been
sanctified through his wife,
and the unbelieving wife has been
sanctified through her believing husband.
Otherwise your children would be unclean,
but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so.
A believing man or woman
is not bound in such circumstances;
God has called us to live in peace.
How do you know, wife,
whether you will save your husband?
Or, how do you know, husband,
whether you will save your wife?
~ 1 Corinthians 7: 1-16
It is good for a man not to marry.
But since there is so much immorality,
each man should have his own wife,
and each woman her own husband.
The husband should fulfill
his marital duty to his wife,
and likewise the wife to her husband.
The wife's body does not
belong to her alone
but also to her husband.
In the same way,
the husband's body does not
belong to him alone
but also to his wife.
Do not deprive each other
except by mutual consent and for a time,
so that you may devote yourselves to prayer.
Then come together again
so that Satan will not tempt you
because of your lack of self-control.
I say this as a concession,
not as a command.
I wish that all men were as I am.
But each man has his own gift from God;
one has this gift, another has that.
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say:
It is good for them to stay unmarried,
as I am. But if they cannot control themselves,
they should marry,
for it is better to marry
than to burn with passion.
To the married I give this command
(not I, but the Lord):
A wife must not separate from her husband.
But if she does, she must remain unmarried
or else be reconciled to her husband.
And a husband must not divorce his wife.
To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord):
If any brother has a wife who is not a believer
and she is willing to live with him,
he must not divorce her.
And if a woman has a husband
who is not a believer and
he is willing to live with her,
she must not divorce him.
For the unbelieving husband has been
sanctified through his wife,
and the unbelieving wife has been
sanctified through her believing husband.
Otherwise your children would be unclean,
but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so.
A believing man or woman
is not bound in such circumstances;
God has called us to live in peace.
How do you know, wife,
whether you will save your husband?
Or, how do you know, husband,
whether you will save your wife?
~ 1 Corinthians 7: 1-16
The conception of
two people living together
for twenty-five years
without having a cross word
suggests a lack of spirit
only to be admired in sheep.
The friendship between
a man and a woman
which does not lead to marriage
or desire for marriage may be
a life long experience of the
greatest value to themselves
and to all their circle of
acquaintance and of activity;
but for this type of friendship
both a rare man
and a rare woman are needed.
Perhaps it should be added
that either the man or the woman
thus deeply bound in lifelong friendship
who seeks marriage must find a
still rarer man or woman to wed,
to make such a three cornered
comradeship a permanent success.
a man and a woman
which does not lead to marriage
or desire for marriage may be
a life long experience of the
greatest value to themselves
and to all their circle of
acquaintance and of activity;
but for this type of friendship
both a rare man
and a rare woman are needed.
Perhaps it should be added
that either the man or the woman
thus deeply bound in lifelong friendship
who seeks marriage must find a
still rarer man or woman to wed,
to make such a three cornered
comradeship a permanent success.
the commonest mode of livelihood,
and the total amount of undesired sex
endured by women is probably
greater in marriage than in prostitution.
and the total amount of undesired sex
endured by women is probably
greater in marriage than in prostitution.
The bonds of matrimony
are like any other bonds
- they mature slowly.
are like any other bonds
- they mature slowly.
All married couples should learn the art of battle
as they should learn the art of making love.
Good battle is objective and honest
--never vicious or cruel.
Good battle is healthy and constructive,
and brings to a marriage
the principle of equal partnership.
as they should learn the art of making love.
Good battle is objective and honest
--never vicious or cruel.
Good battle is healthy and constructive,
and brings to a marriage
the principle of equal partnership.
Marriage is an alliance
entered into by a man
who can't sleep
with the window shut,
and a woman
who can't sleep
with the window open.
entered into by a man
who can't sleep
with the window shut,
and a woman
who can't sleep
with the window open.
A successful marriage
is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.
is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day.
What you are as a single person,
you will be as a married person,
only to a greater degree.
Any negative character trait
will be intensified in a marriage relationship,
because you will feel free
to let your guard down
- that person has committed
himself to you and you
no longer have to worry
about scaring him off.
you will be as a married person,
only to a greater degree.
Any negative character trait
will be intensified in a marriage relationship,
because you will feel free
to let your guard down
- that person has committed
himself to you and you
no longer have to worry
about scaring him off.
Getting married
is like permanently
grafting your hand to the cookie jar.
No matter how sweet
those cookies may taste,
you can't help but wonder
what would have happened
if you'd chosen some other dessert
- brownies, for instance...
or frozen yogurt...
or maybe chocolate strudel.
is like permanently
grafting your hand to the cookie jar.
No matter how sweet
those cookies may taste,
you can't help but wonder
what would have happened
if you'd chosen some other dessert
- brownies, for instance...
or frozen yogurt...
or maybe chocolate strudel.
A simple enough pleasure,
surely, to have breakfast alone
with one's husband,
but how seldom married people
in the midst of life achieve it.
surely, to have breakfast alone
with one's husband,
but how seldom married people
in the midst of life achieve it.
I love being married.
It's so great to find that one special person
you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
It's so great to find that one special person
you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
From Lee Daniel Quinn's book,
Quinn's Devious Dictionary:
Quinn's Devious Dictionary:
MARRIAGE, n.
[1] the dawn of romance
and the commencement of history;
[2] a word that should be
pronounced as "mirage";
[3] an event, for the upper middle class,
is the only adventure left;
[4] a very good way to promote civilization
- if you get a good wife you will be happy,
if you get a bad one
you will become a philosopher
[5] a process much like a cafeteria
- you carefully look over the choices,
select what looks the best
- and pay later;
[6] an event which is called "tying the knot"
- unfortunately, the knot can be a noose;
[7] a word which always means commitment
- but so does insanity;
[8] a ceremony favored in England
- it's the only way to beat
their cold winters and lack of central heating;
[9] something that changes
the demeanor of a driver
- there is no longer any effort needed
to keep both hands on the wheel;
[10] the only permanent cure for love;
[11] is only compatible
when the man makes a living
and his wife makes living worthwhile;
[12] the only adventure open to the cowardly;
[13] something which is called a feast
- unfortunately, sometimes the appetizer
is better than the main course;
[14] a group which consists of:
a master, a mistress,
and two slaves, making in all, two;
[15] the alliance of two people,
one who never remembers birthdays,
and the other who never forgets them;
[16] the process that turns a female
from an attraction into a distraction;
[17] a legal custom which turns a man
into the captive audience of his wife;
[18] that ceremony which makes
more strange bedfellows than politics;
[19] a rite where two people,
under the influence most violent,
most insane, most delusive,
and most transient of passions,
are required to swear that
they will remain in that excited,
abnormal and exhausting condition
until death do them part;
[20] occurs where a man
gets hooked by his own line;
[21] in America, is the only legal method
of suppressing freedom of speech;
and two slaves, making in all, two;
[15] the alliance of two people,
one who never remembers birthdays,
and the other who never forgets them;
[16] the process that turns a female
from an attraction into a distraction;
[17] a legal custom which turns a man
into the captive audience of his wife;
[18] that ceremony which makes
more strange bedfellows than politics;
[19] a rite where two people,
under the influence most violent,
most insane, most delusive,
and most transient of passions,
are required to swear that
they will remain in that excited,
abnormal and exhausting condition
until death do them part;
[20] occurs where a man
gets hooked by his own line;
[21] in America, is the only legal method
of suppressing freedom of speech;
[22] is made out of two toothbrushes
but a single tube of toothpaste;
[23] is just a three-ring circus:
engagement, wedding, and suffer;
[24] the process of finding out
the kind of guy your wife would have preferred;
[25] a condition where no wife gets what she expected,
and no husband expected what he was getting;
[26] the ceremony which provides a man with something that,
sooner or later, he will find he can't blame on the government;
[27] a tradition which would suffer considerably
if men had to pay the minister the same fee
they will eventually have to pay the divorce lawyer;
[28] is much like a pair of shears,
so joined so the parts cannot be separated,
often moving in opposite directions,
yet always punishing anyone
who tries to come between them;
[29] the continuous process of getting
used to things you never expected;
[30] a status which depends upon
two to be successful
but only one to turn into a failure;
[31] is a book in which the first chapter
is written in poetry
and the rest of the pages is prose;
[32] a bargain, and a sensible person
understands that someone
must get the better of any bargain;
[33] in Japanese is called "Judo"
- the art of conquering by yielding.
This is the western equivalent of "Yes, dear";
[34] a confrontation which always demands
the greatest understanding of the subtle art
of insincerity possible between two human beings;
[35] is not a word, but a sentence;
[36] a delightful form of combat
where you get to sleep with the enemy;
[37] an investment that pays big dividends
if you manage to keep up the interest.
but a single tube of toothpaste;
[23] is just a three-ring circus:
engagement, wedding, and suffer;
[24] the process of finding out
the kind of guy your wife would have preferred;
[25] a condition where no wife gets what she expected,
and no husband expected what he was getting;
[26] the ceremony which provides a man with something that,
sooner or later, he will find he can't blame on the government;
[27] a tradition which would suffer considerably
if men had to pay the minister the same fee
they will eventually have to pay the divorce lawyer;
[28] is much like a pair of shears,
so joined so the parts cannot be separated,
often moving in opposite directions,
yet always punishing anyone
who tries to come between them;
[29] the continuous process of getting
used to things you never expected;
[30] a status which depends upon
two to be successful
but only one to turn into a failure;
[31] is a book in which the first chapter
is written in poetry
and the rest of the pages is prose;
[32] a bargain, and a sensible person
understands that someone
must get the better of any bargain;
[33] in Japanese is called "Judo"
- the art of conquering by yielding.
This is the western equivalent of "Yes, dear";
[34] a confrontation which always demands
the greatest understanding of the subtle art
of insincerity possible between two human beings;
[35] is not a word, but a sentence;
[36] a delightful form of combat
where you get to sleep with the enemy;
[37] an investment that pays big dividends
if you manage to keep up the interest.
For two people in a marriage
to live together day after day
is unquestionably the one miracle
the Vatican has overlooked.
to live together day after day
is unquestionably the one miracle
the Vatican has overlooked.
Marriage - as its veterans know well
- is the continuous process
of getting used to things
you hadn't expected.
- is the continuous process
of getting used to things
you hadn't expected.
Newlyweds become oldyweds,
and oldyweds are the reasons
that families work.
and oldyweds are the reasons
that families work.
My wife has been my closest friend,
my closest advisor.
And ... she's not somebody
who looks to the limelight,
or even is wild about me being in politics.
And that's a good reality check on me.
When I go home,
she wants me to be a good father
and a good husband.
And everything else is secondary to that.
my closest advisor.
And ... she's not somebody
who looks to the limelight,
or even is wild about me being in politics.
And that's a good reality check on me.
When I go home,
she wants me to be a good father
and a good husband.
And everything else is secondary to that.
Love, the strongest and deepest element
in all life, the harbinger of hope,
of joy, of ecstasy;
love, the defier of all laws,
of all conventions;
love, the freest, the most powerful molder
of human destiny;
how can such an all
-compelling force be synonymous
with that poor little State
- and Church-begotten weed, marriage?
of joy, of ecstasy;
love, the defier of all laws,
of all conventions;
love, the freest, the most powerful molder
of human destiny;
how can such an all
-compelling force be synonymous
with that poor little State
- and Church-begotten weed, marriage?
The kind of marriage you make
depends upon the kind of person you are.
If you are a happy, well-adjusted person,
the chances are your marriage
will be a happy one.
If you have made adjustments
so far with more satisfaction than distress,
you are likely to make your marriage
and family adjustments satisfactorily.
If you are discontented and bitter
about your lot in life,
you will have to change before
you can expect to live happily ever after.
depends upon the kind of person you are.
If you are a happy, well-adjusted person,
the chances are your marriage
will be a happy one.
If you have made adjustments
so far with more satisfaction than distress,
you are likely to make your marriage
and family adjustments satisfactorily.
If you are discontented and bitter
about your lot in life,
you will have to change before
you can expect to live happily ever after.
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